Never Lose Yourself For Anyone

“It is one thing to lose people you love. It is another to lose yourself. That is a greater loss.”

-Donna Goddard

I have had friendships in the past where I felt like I needed to set aside the real me in order to fit in. 

I have also seen some friends that completely changed after entering a relationship. It took me years to realise that if you have to change the way you are in order for someone to accept you or love you then it’s not the right relationship to be in. It means the other person/people doesn't/don't truly value  you.

I remember clear as day how lonely I felt trying to fit in with certain friends. I wasn’t into the same things, and I forced myself to like those things. It was painful. 

Of course I’ve also gone through the process of trying to be someone else in order for a guy to like me. That too, was painful. The hurt I felt when he didn’t like me back, only to realise he could see through the facade. Even if he liked me for the real me, it was probably a journey I needed to be on to find out that I shouldn’t have to change myself, my values or morals for ANYONE!

I realised you should never lose who you are for anyone! I let so much time go by and wasn't able to embrace my true self, that is something I regret. Staying true to yourself is so important in order to save your mental health. This is also a form of self-care through self-love.

I hope my short testimony can open you up to loving yourself and allow you to take care of yourself. It is not worth losing who you are in order to keep someone that doesn't love the real you. Remember to love yourself and take care of yourself today. ❤️

Love,

Imaan xx